ForMark
04-27-2010, 05:23 PM
Hi everyone a little bit of introduction here. My name is Jay, I am 25 years old living in San Leandro CA. Just about 20 miles away from San Francisco. I am a Filipino American with a younger sibling named Mark.
A friend of mine suggested I seek help on online forums so bare with me im pretty new at this.
Anyways as mentioned I have a younger sibling name Mark, he is 21 years old. Throughout his lifetime hes been living a very lonely life. Before his "mental break down" him and his mother hasnt spoken to each other in years, hes had issues at work where he feels he is being bullied and accused of wrong doings, he is overweight at 290lbs 5'11 tall. He has never had a girlfriend and as always been shut down or disappointed. At one point he had a couple friends he would spend time with but over the past years it has seem that those friends of his has gone and moved on with life. From what I can see, these past couple years has been nothing but work and going home to play video games or stay on the computer the whole day. He does smoke pot about every other day. However, the past couple months or so he i havent seen him touch a video game or pot since.
This year has been pretty bad for him, our grandfather past away, he was once again turned down by a female he thought he could trust and on top of that Mark and myself had a physical altercation with a cousin of ours that he works with. This all happened in the month of February.
About a month ago, I noticed Marks personality change. Just a couple days ago he was the normal typical Mark. But when I asked him to give me a ride I noticed he was very paranoid. He was talking alot of gibberish, almost as if he had a secretive life. I thought he was joking or he was drunk or high on drugs but knowing my brother he would never get on any drugs other than weed. Anyways, he was talking about how "people" is stealing his identity, saying he has stocks with google. He claims that the owner of google stole his idea, and he thought about this years ago. Hes just angered and he was plotting to "hack" these "people" back. He even went as far as rebooting his entire pc, because he was so paranoid that it was possible they could grab more of his information. He was starting to misplace things, I spent time with him alot and I noticed he would forget things. For example one day I was at his house and I suggested before he rebots his pc and deletes everything, why dont you save all ur pics and files in a sd card. So we went to bestbuy and when we got back he started reboting his pc, and I asked him "what are you doing? save your files" and he said "we dont have an sd card" and i was just blowned away and told him "have you forgotten why we went to best buy".
He would misplace his car keys and id. And when he does misplace things he says its the people that is out to get him stealing his stuff. He also lives in an apartment (we do not live together) and he is so paranoid that he believes that even his neighbors are spies working for the people that is out to get him. He just feels every one is against him.
Every now and then he would talk to himself or someone he is imagining. I would ask him who he is talking to and he would just smirk and tell me, dont worry about it.
Sometimes he would talk about how he feels unwanted. How hes been turned down by so many. He would just randomly talk about a girl he use to talk to and just go on and on about it for a while. Usually its always about how they mistreated him.
There is also another side of his personality where he feels depress. He has that mentality that he wants to do everything for everyone. He purchased a laptop for my nephew, bought a tmobile mytouch for our 14 year old sibling. He was always nonchalant about family, he was always the type to just not care. (I guess this was a sign of depression). But suddenly hes always wanting to visit uncles, aunties and grandparents. Hes always talking about how its not fair that good people are suffering and the bad ones arent.
anyways im sorry this is sucha long read. There is just so much to explain. But please if there is anyone out there that knows what condition my brother is going through please tell me!
Everytime I would visit him, I would always try my best to talk some senses into him, I would just try my best to convince him that what hes thinking is wrong, but he wouldnt listen.
we took him to kaiser but all they did was lock him up for a week and give him pills and released him. When he came out he just seemed drugged out. but eventually he went back to his old self.
I dont even know where to begin, where to look for help. Please if there are any suggestions on trying to help get my brother back to his normal self please let me know! Thank you.
A friend of mine suggested I seek help on online forums so bare with me im pretty new at this.
Anyways as mentioned I have a younger sibling name Mark, he is 21 years old. Throughout his lifetime hes been living a very lonely life. Before his "mental break down" him and his mother hasnt spoken to each other in years, hes had issues at work where he feels he is being bullied and accused of wrong doings, he is overweight at 290lbs 5'11 tall. He has never had a girlfriend and as always been shut down or disappointed. At one point he had a couple friends he would spend time with but over the past years it has seem that those friends of his has gone and moved on with life. From what I can see, these past couple years has been nothing but work and going home to play video games or stay on the computer the whole day. He does smoke pot about every other day. However, the past couple months or so he i havent seen him touch a video game or pot since.
This year has been pretty bad for him, our grandfather past away, he was once again turned down by a female he thought he could trust and on top of that Mark and myself had a physical altercation with a cousin of ours that he works with. This all happened in the month of February.
About a month ago, I noticed Marks personality change. Just a couple days ago he was the normal typical Mark. But when I asked him to give me a ride I noticed he was very paranoid. He was talking alot of gibberish, almost as if he had a secretive life. I thought he was joking or he was drunk or high on drugs but knowing my brother he would never get on any drugs other than weed. Anyways, he was talking about how "people" is stealing his identity, saying he has stocks with google. He claims that the owner of google stole his idea, and he thought about this years ago. Hes just angered and he was plotting to "hack" these "people" back. He even went as far as rebooting his entire pc, because he was so paranoid that it was possible they could grab more of his information. He was starting to misplace things, I spent time with him alot and I noticed he would forget things. For example one day I was at his house and I suggested before he rebots his pc and deletes everything, why dont you save all ur pics and files in a sd card. So we went to bestbuy and when we got back he started reboting his pc, and I asked him "what are you doing? save your files" and he said "we dont have an sd card" and i was just blowned away and told him "have you forgotten why we went to best buy".
He would misplace his car keys and id. And when he does misplace things he says its the people that is out to get him stealing his stuff. He also lives in an apartment (we do not live together) and he is so paranoid that he believes that even his neighbors are spies working for the people that is out to get him. He just feels every one is against him.
Every now and then he would talk to himself or someone he is imagining. I would ask him who he is talking to and he would just smirk and tell me, dont worry about it.
Sometimes he would talk about how he feels unwanted. How hes been turned down by so many. He would just randomly talk about a girl he use to talk to and just go on and on about it for a while. Usually its always about how they mistreated him.
There is also another side of his personality where he feels depress. He has that mentality that he wants to do everything for everyone. He purchased a laptop for my nephew, bought a tmobile mytouch for our 14 year old sibling. He was always nonchalant about family, he was always the type to just not care. (I guess this was a sign of depression). But suddenly hes always wanting to visit uncles, aunties and grandparents. Hes always talking about how its not fair that good people are suffering and the bad ones arent.
anyways im sorry this is sucha long read. There is just so much to explain. But please if there is anyone out there that knows what condition my brother is going through please tell me!
Everytime I would visit him, I would always try my best to talk some senses into him, I would just try my best to convince him that what hes thinking is wrong, but he wouldnt listen.
we took him to kaiser but all they did was lock him up for a week and give him pills and released him. When he came out he just seemed drugged out. but eventually he went back to his old self.
I dont even know where to begin, where to look for help. Please if there are any suggestions on trying to help get my brother back to his normal self please let me know! Thank you.