Opheliac
07-25-2010, 11:40 PM
My partner was diagonised with Narcissitic Personality disorder.
I love him with all my heart and he has good days and then there is the bad days which I can handle in private, but it is the public episodes which I need help.
On the Saturday we went to our regular cafe/art gallery. While sitting and waiting for our lunch. My partner Craig went into one of his what I call episodes. His mood was really dark most of the week and he went on that I haven't changed (I have a physical condition which leaves me with weak muscles) and that he hated that I was acting like a five year old all the time.
Yes I do have child like behaviour, I love fun and I find the simpliest things funny.
Anyway back to what happened, we went to the cafe and while waiting he started in on me about his "theory" of how the universe began. He was getting loud and animated. I tried to calm him down but he just went deeper into his theory. How everyone has ripped his ideas for shows off him. And not credited him for them.
The other patrons were looking at us and the owner tried to ignore it. After our lunch while having coffee Craig turn on me and started to go on that he was sick of wasting five years on me because I haven't improved, he started to rant and all I could do was hang my head and utter little more then a "yeah..but" and it was this time the owner, came up to him and said "I hope your not arguing because if you are then you have to leave. Stop being a dick and just have your coffee."
All he said was "Not really but this has been coming for five years." After his rant he went on about the pictures and saying how he liked them. He also concluded that I "hated" him and I said "I don't hate you, this past month has been stressful, and I just don't feel like sex."
To which he replied "Your saying you don't hate me now, but within time you will. Just like the rest of them."
When we went to leave, I paid the owner and she gave me a sympathetic smile as I apologized for what happened.
The next day he was all fine and he was all hugs and kisses.
We live in a small community and I'm sure what happen is going to spread to my parents. I just don't know what to do. It seems he is spiralling back into his problem. He doesn't believe he has a problem and refuses to go back on any medication incase the medication makes him impotent again.
Has other partners been through something like this? I like to hear from others.
I love him with all my heart and he has good days and then there is the bad days which I can handle in private, but it is the public episodes which I need help.
On the Saturday we went to our regular cafe/art gallery. While sitting and waiting for our lunch. My partner Craig went into one of his what I call episodes. His mood was really dark most of the week and he went on that I haven't changed (I have a physical condition which leaves me with weak muscles) and that he hated that I was acting like a five year old all the time.
Yes I do have child like behaviour, I love fun and I find the simpliest things funny.
Anyway back to what happened, we went to the cafe and while waiting he started in on me about his "theory" of how the universe began. He was getting loud and animated. I tried to calm him down but he just went deeper into his theory. How everyone has ripped his ideas for shows off him. And not credited him for them.
The other patrons were looking at us and the owner tried to ignore it. After our lunch while having coffee Craig turn on me and started to go on that he was sick of wasting five years on me because I haven't improved, he started to rant and all I could do was hang my head and utter little more then a "yeah..but" and it was this time the owner, came up to him and said "I hope your not arguing because if you are then you have to leave. Stop being a dick and just have your coffee."
All he said was "Not really but this has been coming for five years." After his rant he went on about the pictures and saying how he liked them. He also concluded that I "hated" him and I said "I don't hate you, this past month has been stressful, and I just don't feel like sex."
To which he replied "Your saying you don't hate me now, but within time you will. Just like the rest of them."
When we went to leave, I paid the owner and she gave me a sympathetic smile as I apologized for what happened.
The next day he was all fine and he was all hugs and kisses.
We live in a small community and I'm sure what happen is going to spread to my parents. I just don't know what to do. It seems he is spiralling back into his problem. He doesn't believe he has a problem and refuses to go back on any medication incase the medication makes him impotent again.
Has other partners been through something like this? I like to hear from others.