confused976
07-31-2010, 11:06 PM
Ok. this is going to be long, I need a good perspective though so any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
I've recently had my marriage all but fall apart, the reasoning behind it, is lying/hiding things as well as consistent emotional attachment to other females. Sounds pretty simple right? leave the guy.
It's been 5 years of the same thing, he does as he wants, decides I won't like it, and forgets to tell me about it, until I find out, and then the reasoning is that he was embarassed and ashamed. It started out with covering drugs, places he'd gone etc little things. Then they grew, and grew, until we're now $40,000 in debt, he ran up $300 on my credit card, and dropped out of school. (hence the forty grand)
Now, the lying has gotten worse, I've caught him in things he's said to me that completely contradict each other, because to his disfortune I have an amazing memory. things like "I don't like to have girls for friends, its pointless" to the next day exclaiming how I control him and its obvious he just can't be friends with girls.
The other day I asked him why he downloaded two things, nothing big, just wondering, they were really rather useless to our computer, so he told me one thing, later that day, the story changed.
Now after 4 or 5 emotional attachments, 5 years of lying, and the past two months of nothing but conflicting stories and reasoning, I'm starting to believe I have a compulsive liar on my hands.
But then again, this is the same guy who has gloated to me about enjoying manipulating people. And even more of his behaviors resemble that too.
he said he thinks he is a compulsive liar, 30 minutes into reading about them.
for a guy who can't admit he didn't take out the garbage, it seems a little too convenient.
So I've got two thoughts, Compulsive lying, and antisocial personality disorder.
am I way out in left field here or what?
any thoughts? (and sorry for the length of the post, I was trying to keep it short)
I've recently had my marriage all but fall apart, the reasoning behind it, is lying/hiding things as well as consistent emotional attachment to other females. Sounds pretty simple right? leave the guy.
It's been 5 years of the same thing, he does as he wants, decides I won't like it, and forgets to tell me about it, until I find out, and then the reasoning is that he was embarassed and ashamed. It started out with covering drugs, places he'd gone etc little things. Then they grew, and grew, until we're now $40,000 in debt, he ran up $300 on my credit card, and dropped out of school. (hence the forty grand)
Now, the lying has gotten worse, I've caught him in things he's said to me that completely contradict each other, because to his disfortune I have an amazing memory. things like "I don't like to have girls for friends, its pointless" to the next day exclaiming how I control him and its obvious he just can't be friends with girls.
The other day I asked him why he downloaded two things, nothing big, just wondering, they were really rather useless to our computer, so he told me one thing, later that day, the story changed.
Now after 4 or 5 emotional attachments, 5 years of lying, and the past two months of nothing but conflicting stories and reasoning, I'm starting to believe I have a compulsive liar on my hands.
But then again, this is the same guy who has gloated to me about enjoying manipulating people. And even more of his behaviors resemble that too.
he said he thinks he is a compulsive liar, 30 minutes into reading about them.
for a guy who can't admit he didn't take out the garbage, it seems a little too convenient.
So I've got two thoughts, Compulsive lying, and antisocial personality disorder.
am I way out in left field here or what?
any thoughts? (and sorry for the length of the post, I was trying to keep it short)