forlornhope
01-27-2011, 08:43 AM
My mother is codependent, manipulative, emotional vampire and I do not know what to do. I'm 29 she will not let me move out of her house. I can't have girl friend or a friend or at least one with out a lot of patients because I don't have the energy to deal with any thing but her. It is like I am in a state of the walking died. I know I need to leave and I'd like to leave but she pushed all my sisters away, my ant my uncle, cousins, leaving me to be her support group. I feel like the music stopped and in left with the potato. And If I even talk about leaving she cries telling me I can't leave here she needs me. If it gets real bad she will tell me " I gave up my life for my kids......... my life!"( On a small personal note I've find this to be a real shity way to look at having kids. I always thought you shared a peace of your life with kids or better yet kid are a part of life.) I think She thinks she needs me but I think I'm a crutch. You see she sends me to the store to the drive throw to the pharmacy...etc. then she will cry about how she never leaves the house. she also insists on talking about her sex life...... This is soooo fuck disturbing(seriously roller coasters do nothing for me any more. I've talked about my mothers sex life.) This is especially disturbing since I have never had a intimate relations with any one. hell the last girl I kissed was when I was 11 (you know that your cells replace every 7 year so technically that person is gone two times over). I know this is not healthy relationship with my mother it is like a mill stone around my neck and the longer I'm in it the farther to the top I will need to swim. but I'm. Still afraid that if I stop being her crutch she will let her self fall. My family thinks I should dropper like a fire cracker but I'm hesitant to do so. Because despite the fact that she was a shity mother, despite all the shit she puts me throw, despite the fact that I despise this life I am in. I don't want my mom to get heart. Do you have any advice?