PleaseHelp89
08-18-2009, 08:31 PM
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. He works nights and I work days and we work at the same place. We share a car and live together with a roomate. Were mostly cooped up in our room which is fine.
Anyways, when I first met my boyfriend, he was so much fun to be around. We always did things, going out to eat, the park, movies, family, ect. He was so caring and loving. We never argued.
A year after we'd been dating, things started to change. He started to become more distant Stopped talking to his family. He's very negative about everything and everyone. He hates being around others, hates his job, and everything else.
He says he loves me and wants me around but that he needed space. I told him I'll move out but he doesnt want that. Every arguement we get into, he just gets mad. We never work anything out until I come to him or until I get over it. He's constantly playing xbox and we never have "our" time together. He's been drinking lately by himself too...
I love him so much, I just don't like this new him. He's completely changed into a nice loving person into a negative about life guy. How should I help him to make our relationship work? I dont want to lose him but I dont know how much longer I can take his negative views and opinions. He even has me isolating myself from everybody. Were suppose to get our very own place together so that way we'd have more space. But I don't know what I should do? I don't want to leave him I just want things how they use to be and dont know how to get the old him back?
Anyways, when I first met my boyfriend, he was so much fun to be around. We always did things, going out to eat, the park, movies, family, ect. He was so caring and loving. We never argued.
A year after we'd been dating, things started to change. He started to become more distant Stopped talking to his family. He's very negative about everything and everyone. He hates being around others, hates his job, and everything else.
He says he loves me and wants me around but that he needed space. I told him I'll move out but he doesnt want that. Every arguement we get into, he just gets mad. We never work anything out until I come to him or until I get over it. He's constantly playing xbox and we never have "our" time together. He's been drinking lately by himself too...
I love him so much, I just don't like this new him. He's completely changed into a nice loving person into a negative about life guy. How should I help him to make our relationship work? I dont want to lose him but I dont know how much longer I can take his negative views and opinions. He even has me isolating myself from everybody. Were suppose to get our very own place together so that way we'd have more space. But I don't know what I should do? I don't want to leave him I just want things how they use to be and dont know how to get the old him back?